Self Esteem.

I will be happy when….

How many times have you looked in the mirror and seen something you don’t like? It happens to the best of us, we get caught up in what we ‘should’ look like. Thighs are too big, hair is too straight, too many freckles, breasts are too small… the list could go on, and for many of us it does. The question is, are you loving who you are and keen to further improve yourself, or are you getting caught in the old “I’ll be happy when…”? “I’ll be happy when I weigh only X kg”, “I’ll be happy when I get a boob job”, I’ll be happy when I have this or that done”.

The truth is that happiness  isn’t a place, person, operation, destination or weight goal. Happiness is a feeling, and it’s entirely within our control as to if, and when, we feel it or not. The challenge many of us face is that we’re always searching for something externally to make us feel good rather than finding it within.

Not liking what I saw in the mirror.

I know this, because I spent most of my life not liking what I saw in the mirror. I was Bulimic for 8 years and ALWAYS thought I was too fat. It wasn’t until I was looking back in hindsight, that I realized my problems never had anything to do with my weight. I’m 5’2″ and at my very heaviest I was only 55kg (121lb), but I thought I was a huge, hideous monster. I was never happy unless I was down to 48kg (106lb), which – funnily enough – only seemed to happen when I was even more depressed, or on the ‘break up diet’ when I’d split with a partner. Most of the time I was never more than about 50kg (110lb) yet I absolutely believed that I would only be happy when these last 2kg (4.4lb) had dropped.

2kg? How could 2 measly kilograms really dictate whether or not I was happy? From the outside in, it was easy to see that I had a problem unrelated to my weight, but as the person experiencing this, it was all I could think about. In fact ‘think’ is too mild a word. I was obsessed. I would starve myself for days, only to binge on huge amounts of food which I would then purge, several times a day. This was a destructive, cyclic pattern and it was ruining my life, my relationships and my health. Even now, years later, my digestive system doesn’t function properly and I have irreparable damage to my teeth from all the purging.

I tried everything I could think of to make the changes I knew I needed. I went to counselors, support groups, psychiatrists, nutritionists, everything… you name it, I tried it. What I hadn’t tried at that point, is to truly understand that I needed to fall in love with me, just the way I was. When I was 26, I started working one on one with Nina, a very intuitive life coach who helped me search inside myself to find the answers I was looking for.

There were many months of tears, frustration and soul searching… but eventually there was peace. I was able to understand why I was using food as an emotional crutch and what the real cause of my behaviour was. You see, the eating disorder was simply a vehicle for dealing with the real issues, and once I knew what they were, I was able to address them directly.

Today I am happy, healthy and loving who I am. I’m still human, I still have bad days, and I still have an ‘ideal weight’ that I’d like to get to… but it doesn’t dictate my life and I love myself regardless… squishy bits and all.

Katrina Wilton is Director and Co-Founder of Australian Company Glow Health & Wellness Pty Ltd. Created with her sister, Sabrina Holmes, Glow is a company dedicated to empowering women to love who they are and live the life of their dreams.

Introduced to personal development at the tender age of 12, it has become a life long passion to learn and grow personally and spiritually, and share those learnings with others, which is what her websites are designed to do.

After 8 years with an eating disorder, and serious consumer debt in her 20′s, Katrina’s personal journey to health and wealth is one worth sharing. At only 31, Katrina is now a successful Entrepreneur and Property Investor, happily married and living in the United States.

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Self Esteem for Women

Self Esteem – what does it mean..

Would you consider yourself someone with high Self Esteem, or low self esteem?” The natural reaction when asked a question like this may well be “high self esteem of course!”, but the truth may paint a very different picture.

Self Esteem  and Body Image.

Self esteem for women, especially, seems to be generally lower than it should be, and unfortunately far too often accompanied by poor body image. Why then are so many women subject to this deprecating state of mind? Perhaps it comes back to the natural laws of femininity. You see, a woman in her natural, feminine state has an in-built desire to radiate beauty. It’s the very reason that we women wear make-up, shave our legs, wax our eyebrows, love to shop, etc.

If that desire for beauty extended to finding that which we already have, it would be an absolute blessing. Unfortunately however, the unhealthy side of that desire for beauty, is in seeking it externally and creating unhealthy comparisons to others.

This damaging act of comparison is concerning enough in its own right, but consider who we are really comparing ourselves against. Whether consciously or not, we are most certainly using the media images that we’re constantly bombarded with as a benchmark for what is the ‘right’ size, body shape or look.

The Role of the Media.

The problem with that is this; the women in the media – actresses, singers, models, etc – are in front of the camera for a living! Their livelihood revolves around how good they look with their faces and bodies featured up close and personal on giant screens around the world. I’m certain just about anyone in the same position would make it an absolute priority to ensure there isn’t a scrap of fat to be seen, or a single hair out of place. They have the money, the resources and, most importantly, extreme motivation to ensure that this standard is always maintained – and all too often at the cost of their health.

The other problem with using the media as a benchmark can be found in the simple act of picking up a magazine. It only takes a quick flip through the pages of any woman’s fashion magazine to make even a woman with great self esteem feel like a fat pig! Between the scarily thin catwalk models, and the lighting, make up, good photography, and of course airbrushing and photoshop techniques, the end result is that we find ourselves envying a picture of a woman who isn’t even real.

In fact, for a wonderful example of what’s involved in creating the finished look of a model in a print advertisement, I highly encourage you to watch the video that Dove put together as part of their Campaign for Real Beauty.

Naturally none of this is to say that we shouldn’t care about our appearance, or enjoy making ourselves look and feel beautiful, but simply that if we must peg ourselves against a benchmark, perhaps we should consider someone more realistic.

It’s so important to keep ourselves healthy from the inside out, and that includes our mind… Don’t let these unrealistic images of beauty fool you into thinking you’re not good enough the way you are.

My Tip.

My tip for this is to make a list of everything you like about yourself from the inside out. In fact, one exercise I did was to go through my body parts one by one and write down why I loved them. I can assure you that when I got to my thighs, I found it a little challenging, but I managed to come up with how much I love that they are strong and carry me wherever I want to go!

Don’t let the negative thoughts creep in, they are like a cancer for your mind… find reasons to love everything about who you are, in all your fabulous individuality!

Self Esteem for Women | Dare to be Fabulous!

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Self-esteem Is the Key to Happiness.

Self-esteem Affects the Quality of Your Life.

Self-esteem is a person’s psychological evaluation of his or her own Self-worth. This concept describes a person’s ability to view himself in a favorable manner. To put it simply, self-esteem deals with your ability to and the level with which you like yourself.

Self-esteem Is the Key to Happiness.  Self-esteem is a crucial component of your mental health.   The way that you feel about yourself will affect many other aspects of your life.  It determines how you deal with stress, how you form relationships, your Confidence levels, anxiety, success, leadership and many other factors that play a significant role in your daily life.

People who hold themselves in low self-regard usually find that their lives are lacking many of the elements that bring happiness. This is a dangerous self-perpetuating cycle that needs to be broken. The low self-image creates a void of good relationships, successes, positive physical image in a person’s life. These missing elements cause unhappiness and thus reinforce the low self-esteem. The negativity feeds itself. To stop this requires action. A person with low self-esteem will have to seek help and take positive action to reverse the effects. The good thing is that like negative self-esteem, positive self-esteem also feeds itself so getting started and taking regular steps is usually all it takes to reverse the process.

How Do You Feel About Yourself.

It is important to have an understanding of where you stand with regard to your self-esteem. This is the only way to know for sure whether action needs to be taken or changes need to be made. This section contains some simple tests to help you evaluate your self-esteem. If you feel that, your self-esteem is low, start making the necessary changes today. Every minute that you wait, another crucial victory may slip away and another door is left open for the cold drafts of failure to waft in.

Low Self-esteem Robs Your Ability to Succeed.

Allowing yourself to maintain low self-esteem is like inviting failure and negativity to come in and take control of your life. In some cases, it can be quite dangerous. Low self-esteem can lead to depression, which depending on the severity; can cause much more significant physical and psychological conditions. If you feel that you are becoming depressed, it is important that you seek help. There are many professionals available to help you regain your happiness and productivity.

Feeling poorly about yourself also has a tendency to prevent you from achieving success. This is because it affects your motivation to try, to make the effort, to take the risk, to make the changes necessary to succeed. It causes us accept negative situations in life that normally we would not tolerate such as abuse, disrespect, neglect or any other unfair treatment. If these things sound familiar to you, look over some of the articles and resources in this section to find out how you can start improving your self-esteem today.

Too Much Self-love.

There is such a thing as too much self-esteem. In many cases, someone who appears to have too much self-esteem, that is, they seem to love themselves a bit too much, is simply trying to overcompensate for their low self-esteem. These people have serious doubts about their own worth and abilities but they put up a fad to hide it. This is usually due to the fear that if others sense your Self-doubt, they will lose faith or trust in your abilities, which could present other problems. This is especially common in competitive environments such as sports, the workplace, school, etc.

OverConfidence, Arrogance And Conceit.

On the other hand, recent studies have found that there are people for whom this is not a front at all. These people actually do have too much self-esteem. They think abnormally highly of themselves. That is, they truly believe that they are better than everyone else is. Not surprisingly, some of these studies have shown that a significant number of prison inmates seem to have this attribute. Does over confidence and an abnormally high level of Self-regard make a person more prone to criminal activity? Is this typical narcissism?   More studies will likely be needed to make such a determination but common sense tells me that the idea stands to reason.   If I thought I was better than everyone else was, I would have little or at least a lesser regard for his or her rights, or the rules of society for that matter. I might very well be more prone to criminal activity. At this point, it is not much more than food for thought of course.

For the most part, it is always useful to pursue improving self-esteem. As long as it is realistic, a well-developed sense of Self-worth can be a major asset and will bring many positive benefits to your life. High self-esteem will allow you to be confident and happy. It helps you to remain highly motivated in the face of challenge and maintain the right attitude to succeed.

Improving Self-esteem Will Improve Your Life.

Learn to love yourself but do not overdo it. High self-esteem will improve your life but believing that you are better than or more important than everyone else is likely to damage your relationships and injure your ability to succeed rather than help it. It is a good idea to find a health balance, a middle ground (so to speak.)

For information about effective Leadership Development or improving self-confidence, visit my self motivation site: How To Be Confident!

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The Secret to Self Confidence.

The Secret to Self Confidence

Confidence is built upon experiences of success. When starting something new or unfamiliar we are likely at first to have a small amount of confidence because we haven’t learned from experience that we can succeed eg: learning to ride a bike, speaking in public or learning to drive a car. It’s literally true that success breeds success.

Baby Steps….

Even a small success can be used as a stepping stone to a greater one. Like helping a child to walk, at first it is a few steps and then gradually more and more until they are walking everywhere without having to even think about it. We can use the same method starting gradually and experiencing success at first on a small scale and strengthening it up from there.

Another important practice is to remember your past successes and forget past failures eg: when a baby starts learning how to walk its encouraged and doesn’t focus on the falling over the baby remembers the steps they took from before and from this builds up to more steps until it comes without much thought. Unfortunately, many people choose to destroy their self confidence by remembering past failures and forgetting about their past successes.Also with the memories of failure we usually add emotion around them, thus diminishing our self confidence.

It does not matter how many times you have failed in your past, what does matter is the successful attempts which is what should be remembered. We always encourage our peers. family and friends but yet we find it hard to allow ourselves the time and patience for ourselves to learn new skills and to remember we all learn at different paces. We should not try and compare ourselves to anybody else. We are all unique.

Tip

When feeling like your self confidence is a bit shaken or when you are starting something new, recall the feelings that you have experienced in a past success, however small it might have been.

Exercise

Get comfortable and close your eyes, take three deep slow breaths in and out and in your minds eye recall a moment where you had a success. Noticing what you see, how you are feeling in this moment, what are you hearing, what are you telling yourself, perhaps you can smell or even taste something. Take your time and really enjoy the moment. Know that you can recall this moment when ever you need anywhere at anytime.

 

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Sheree Cameron – Life Coach Practitioner
MIFREEDOM Coaching

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Six Tips to better self Esteem.

Six Tips to better Self Esteem.

It is in the moments of our day when we become aware of our thoughts that the gift awaits.  The Gift to choose.  Most of our day, we choose to be kind and loving towards those around us.  Yet our conversations to ourselves are often judgmental and critical.

If I can change my thoughts; my thoughts guide my feelings, feelings motivate me to action.   When my thoughts are of kindness towards myself – I do activities which are more loving to all.

Choose one of these tips to work with every day.

Tip One

Stop all criticism.

Don’t critize ourselves or others.

Thinking negatively about another person is one of the greatest causes of our own limitation in our life.  It is important that with our thinking we judge people and ourselves.  If we are not critical to others than they are less likely to be critical to us.

Tip Two

Take care of your body.

Our bodies are a precious temple.  If we are going to live a long fulfilling life then we need to take good care of ourselves.   You want to look good but most of all you want to have lots of energy.  Nutrition and exercise are important to our quality of life.  We want to nourish our body not punish.

Tip Three

Treat yourself as though you are loved.

Be kind and respectful to yourself.  As you learn to love yourself, you will be more open to love from others.  The law of love requires that you focus your attention on what you do want, rather than what you don’t want.  Focus on be kind and loving to yourself.

Tip Four

Have integrity.

In order to honour and respect yourself you must have integrity.  Learn to keep your world.  Do not make a promise that you will not keep – even to yourself.  Don’t promise yourself that you will start the diet tomorrow or exercise every day unless you know you will follow through.  We want to learn how to trust ourselves.

Tip Five

Develop a strong spiritual connection.

This connection may or may not have anything to with religion.  As adults we choose our own spiritual pathways and beliefs.  Solitude is one of the special times in one’s life.  Your relationship with your inner self is the most important one.  Give yourself quite time and connect with your inner guidance.  Read great books, walk, find beauty in nature etc – when you enjoy something it is nurturing that connection.

Tip Six

Educate yourself.

Learn a new skill.  We live in the information age.  It feels good to be learning and growing everyday.  Find something that you are interested in and just start researching….keep it fun and see where it leads to.

At whatever stage of this journey you find yourself; appreciate every tiny  insight every meager opening.   Be kind, patient and gentle with yourself.

Thoughts from my head….

Marie Plummer

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